Barbara. Canadian. Writer. Taken.

Nineteen things I’ve learned before I turned nineteen.
1. Always carry $5 and a lighter with you (even if you don’t smoke).
2. Ask every person you meet how their day is going. Genuinely ask with the sole intention of learning how their day is. Ask the coffee shop employee. Ask the person next to you in line at Walmart. Ask your distant friend. Ask everyone.
3. Take many photos of yourself. Take photos of yourself when you’re happy. Take photos of yourself when you’re sad. Take photos of yourself because there are millions of trees in the world, and we all look at the same sky, but there is only one of you.
4. Stay in contact with your parents. Try not to hate them. They are the reason you have the ability to feel anything at all. Try not to hate your parents.
5. Opening your skin will not set your demons free. Open your heart. Open your mind. Open your hands.
6. Nobody knows anybody completely. That’s okay.
7. Be gentle, but be aggressive. Take a stand. Nobody hears your voice if you stay silent.
8. Respect everybody. We are all humans trying to survive. We all deserve respect.
9. Wearing black will ALWAYS make you feel better about yourself.
10. Always give tips, whether it be a couple extra dollars or a piece of mind. You never know how much you could be helping someone.
11. Change is the only thing consistent in life. Do not allow that bother you. Embrace chance and move with life, whichever direction it chooses to take you.
12. Smile often. Smile at strangers. Smile at your friends. Smile when nobody is looking and you’re alone in your bedroom. Smile when somebody is rambling to you.
13. Body image means nothing. Your body is merely just a seatbelt in the car. Your body is here to protect you. You choose the direction you go, and your body will not hold you back. Only you can hold yourself back.
14. Don’t hold grudges. Don’t allow yourself to hate anybody. Forgive them. Learn to love them for the person you never got to see them to be. Believe that a beautiful human exists in that person. Wish them well.
15. Drink orange juice. Lot’s of it.
16. Don’t allow the opinions of others to choose your destiny. We are all simply trying to live our own life.
17. Sing all the time. Sing off key. Sing in a silly voice. Sing like you’re on stage. Sing no matter who is around. Singing is breathing for the soul. Sing.
18. Take time to think. Write your feelings down. Write letters to the people you love. Texting is overrated and not as heartfelt as a nice handwritten letter.
19. Live for yourself. Breathe for yourself. Do everything in your life for nobody but you. This is your life. This is it.

Katey Chrest (via florida-sounds)

(Source: thinly)

Here and now, I have only these hands,
this mouth, this skin as wide as a shoreline,
this beehive between my ears, this buzz, this buzz.
You are the best thing I never planned.
This is the widest I can stretch my arms without
dropping things. This is the first time I don’t care
if I drop things. This is what dropping
things feels like. This is what happens when
the flowers wake up one morning and decide to
smell human: it confuses us, makes us
reach backwards into places that are sharp,
feel around for things we’ve dropped. I have
forgotten what I was looking for. It doesn’t
seem important. You brought me flowers.
You made the bed. This is the widest I can
stretch my arms. This is all I have right now.

Sarah Kay, “Here and Now” (via pniepple)

Send Me Your Birthday!



  • January - do you rather warm or cold weather?
  • February - give one fact/detail about your crush
  • March - favorite color?
  • April - what religion are you?
  • May - what is your eye color and hair color?
  • June - what is the best thing you’ve ever experienced?
  • July -…

I hope you
outlast this

stretch, Emma Bleker (via stolenwine)


so true

1. When it starts to get bad again in mid October, tell mom and get your medication adjusted; don’t go back to the boys that slide up your dress and promise that their love will make you whole again.
2. No matter how many fucking cuts you create on your thighs, the colour you bleed out will never match his lovely new girlfriend’s shade of red lipstick. Throw the blades away and let the scars be a reminder to never go back to that place in the pit of your mind.
3. When you wake up tangled in those cheap, off white, cotton sheets, sit up and eat the muffin they served you for breakfast on the tray beside your bed. Apologize to your mom for almost forcing her to burry her baby, and then tell the doctor you’ll never swallow a bottle of sleeping pills again; mean it when you say it.
4. In late April when the cute brunette boy leads you up the stairs, passes you a bottle of Jack Daniels and bets you can’t drink it all. Turn down the challenge and go home. He wants you drunk for a purpose and 3 months later it’s going to be the reason you are crying and shaking in therapy.
5. When your tummy feels as if it’s swollen and your eyes can barely stay open, don’t go to the scale to check your weight, go to the fridge and eat that yogurt cup that you want so bad. You are practically skin stretched over bone and denying yourself a small snack when you haven’t eaten in a week is horrible. You are beautiful love. Calories aren’t going to change that.

5 things that I wish I could tell myself from exactly a year ago today (H.S)

(Source: dumbdaisies)

Suddenly you’re ripped into being alive. And life is pain, and life is suffering, and life is horror, but my god you’re alive and its spectacular.

Joseph Campbell (via atmosthetic)

(Source: artvevo)

It is not our job to remain whole.
We came to lose our leaves
Like the trees, and be born again,
Drawing up from the great roots.

Robert Bly (via observando)

Imagining Winter


I can just imagine you in a warm winter jacket,
snowflake catching on your eyelashes,
as you inhale and blow smoke rings into the crisp bitter air.
The idea is breath taking.
You look amazing in blue but I think I told you that.
I didn’t tell you that it makes your eyes swallow me whole…


Self infliction // 10:56 pm

Lovely double play here…the spoken and unspoken in harmony.  :)

Do you know what’s truly sexy in a person? Kindness and wit. To have the sensibility to know what you live for and laugh about simple stuff, and to be selfless in showing you care. That fucking blows me away in a person.

The truth about my grin. -s.p. (via twohousesoftheholy)

(Source: mystrangesilhouettes)

the better man needs only her happiness,
the one who lost her needed his own,
but the one who has her,
well, he feeds her smiles.

(via cephalopoet)